If you've ever wondered ...

...what it's like to casually date someone whom you already love, I'm conducting an experiment just for you!

Sunday Brett and I spent the day together. We saw Children of Men, had coffee at my favorite coffee shop, went out to eat, then came back to my place for one last roll in the hay. I really don't know what things are going to be like from now on. He says constantly that he still wants to date me, he wants us to stay in each other's lives. I want those things too. I have really come to depend on his friendship.

I've set only two ground rules: 1) No daily contact and 2) No s-e-x. He doesn't want to be in a serious relationship, so we've got to take the seriousness out, and those are the only ways I know how to do it. Again, I have no clue how this will all turn out. I'm hoping to be able to date other people, if for nothing else than to occupy my time. I think he may date other people too. I don't want to ask.

Today was the first day of no daily contact. This is only the second day since we started corresponding back in September that we haven't contacted each other in some way. The first day was when I asked him to give me a day to process the break-up. Other than that we have written, texted, IMed or called each other every day, usually multiple times per day. That seems so crazy! We really hit the ground running, you know?

I've never been in a situation like this. We're essentially going backwards. I don't know if that can be done successfully. At the very least I hope we remain friends. This experiment isn't going to be scientific, but I'll let you know what I learn from it.

Update: Brett texted me and asked if he could call. I said yes and we talked for half an hour about some news he had gotten about friends. So maybe tomorrow will be the second day ever during which we don't contact each other. Lol.